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Societal [Arrow] Self Expectations

I don't know about you, but when I look back over the years I am surprised at how many major steps I've taken in my life......how much time and energy I've invested......and the extremes I've gone to........to meet societal [arrow] self expectations. I'm surprised at how limited I thought my choices were; surprised at how I curled up just so, just right (and how much practice that took) so I could fit myself most neatly and appropriately into a box and ride on the cargo train. I'm surprised at how many miles I traveled in that box and how attached I was to the outcome.....the destination......waiting........
It makes me wonder ---- if people knew about the pasture --- would they choose to ride in a box?

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Published Wednesday, September 19, 2007 12:51 PM by Tina

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# re: Societal [Arrow] Self Expectations@ Monday, September 24, 2007 5:46 AM

Well having ridden in the box off and on... though of course my interpretation of the box may not be exactly the same as yours.

I think that the problem is to even see the pasture is to take the first step and to step out of the box even that far means facing our fears around not being good enough, it means taking sometimes enormous risks (or rather they feel that way) risking censure from those around us who would rather we stayed exactly the same (and many only have people around them who want them to stay the same). To risk disapproval requires a certain security at the centre. We need to feel okay about ourselves and the sad sad truth is many of us just don't feel okay. Low self esteem is an epidemic in the UK.

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